When I think about of how to foster relationships, I want to go straight to the flowery stuff, the inspiring stuff. Though I cannot just yet; I know that the first step is to muster the courage to acknowledge past pains. As I’m writing these words, “acknowledge past pains,” I begin to weep. It is the frustration, the anger in relation to my hurt that creates a wall between myself and others and hinders fostering authentic relationships. Beneath all anger is pain, is hurt. When we allow ourselves to acknowledge that pain, to mourn, we open the door to celebration, to self acceptance, and to possibility.