AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – NVC & Politics

In our next Asheville NVC Consciousness meeting, we will be exploring how to implement our work with NVC into the realm of political opposition and rhetoric. Never before have we seen such polarity amidst opposing political parties. The resulting violence, in language and behavior, can be enraging, paralyzing and confusing.
With election season coming up in November, the connection between NVC and politics is a theme we’d like to bring to the table to help us better understand the undercurrents of feelings and needs behind this political season. The hope in doing so is to bridge the gap between ourselves and ‘the other’ so as to make life more wonderful.
-Erika Binger
Erika and I will be co-hosting this event at Kairos Community Center West. Please note that Kairos is moving into the building where Firestorm is. The address should be 610 Haywood Rd, Asheville, NC. The move should be complete to our new building space by the time of our meeting. I am contacting the Kairos coordinator for confirmation and will let you know if there are any issues or changes.
Please note that we will be starting at 7pm so I’d enjoy if you arrive before then to get seated and situated.

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – Practicing Needs

In our next Asheville NVC Consciousness meeting we will be experientially exploring Needs as distinct strategies. Needs are the heart of NVC and of life, our driving life force. When we understand that Needs and strategies are not the same, we open the door to vast potential to be able to speak to our Needs more effectively and in harmony with the Needs of others.

We will be meeting at our regularly scheduled time and location, 7pm-9pm on the first Tuesday of the month (August 2nd) at Kairos Community Center West (742 Haywood Rd), in the same parking lot as The Guitar Trader across the street from Biscuit Head.

I hope to see you there!

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – Practicing Feelings

In our next Asheville NVC Consciousness meeting we will be experientially exploring Feelings as distinct from thoughts/evaluations. While Feelings seem straightforward, our language and culture has conditioned us to overlay our Feelings with thoughts and emulations with the phrase “I feel like/as is/that.” Building a feelings vocabulary and awareness is part of the core of an NVC practice.

Please join Sasha Tsyupka and me as we practice feelings awareness and vocabulary.

We will be meeting at our regularly scheduled time and location, 7pm-9pm on the first Tuesday of the month (July 5th) at Kairos Community Center West (742 Haywood Rd), in the same parking lot as The Guitar Trader across the street from Biscuit Head.

We hope to see you there!

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – Practicing Observations

In our next Asheville NVC Consciousness meeting we will be experientially exploring observations as distinct from evaluations. Please join Sasha Tsyupka and me as we practice making observations and how this strategy helps foster empathy for ourselves and others.

We will be meeting at our regularly scheduled time and location, 7pm-9pm on the first Tuesday of the month (June 7th) at Kairos Community Center West (742 Haywood Rd), in the same parking lot as The Guitar Trader across the street from Biscuit Head.

We hope to see you there!

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – Transforming Our Anger (pt2 – workshop)

  • Location: Kairos – 742 Haywood Rd, Asheville, NC 28806
  • Date & Time: Tuesday, May 3rd from 7pm-9pm.
  • Co-host: Sasha Tsyupka

Our last gathering (Transforming Our Anger) turned out to be a wonderful discussion around the process of identifying and transforming our anger. Part two will be the hands-on experiential workshop component of this process. I’m delighted that Sasha Tsyupka will be co-hosting this event again with me.

In this gathering we will review what we discussed in the last meeting, then Sasha and I will demonstrate the process of transforming our anger, and then we will break into pairs to practice the process. Please try to bring with you 2 specific examples of a time when you felt angry and be able to identify a specific trigger person/scenario around this anger.

Please note that pairs will be matched by relative sensitivity to anger. For example, if you have a high sensitivity to anger, you will be paired with someone who shares a high sensitivity and who will likely be mindful of this sensitivity.

I look forward to seeing you there!

“For teaching purposes, I sometimes refer to anger as similar to the warning light on the dashboard of a car – it’s giving you useful information about what the engine needs. You wouldn’t want to hide or disconnect or ignore it. You’d want to slow down the car and figure out what the light’s trying to tell you.” (Marshall B. Rosenberg)

*This event is free.

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – Transforming Our Anger workshop

Transforming Our Anger

  • Location: Kairos – 742 Haywood Rd, Asheville, NC 28806
  • Date & Time: Tuesday, April 5th from 7pm-9pm.
  • Co-host: Sasha Tsyupka

For our next Asheville NVC Consciousness gathering we will be meeting at Kairos West Community Center. I’m delighted to share that Sasha Tsyupka will be co-hosting this event with me where we will be talking about and working with Transforming Our Anger.

“For teaching purposes, I sometimes refer to anger as similar to the warning light on the dashboard of a car – it’s giving you useful information about what the engine needs. You wouldn’t want to hide or disconnect or ignore it. You’d want to slow down the car and figure out what the light’s trying to tell you.” (Marshall B. Rosenberg)

Together we will discuss steps to transform our anger, see a demonstration of the process, and then break into pairs to practice these steps. Please bring a specific example of a time when you felt angry and be able to identify a specific trigger person around this anger.

Please note that pairs will be matched by relative sensitivity to anger. For example, if you have a high sensitivity to anger, you will be paired with someone who shares a high sensitivity and who will likely be mindful of this sensitivity.

*This event is free.

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – Working with Triggers

:Announcement: The Asheville NVC Consciousness will now be meeting on the first Tuesday of every month unless otherwise stated.

Our next gathering will be Intro to Working with Triggers. It will be held on February 2, 2016 from 6:55pm – 9pm. The location will be at 29 Parkwood Ave, Asheville, NC 28804. 

Event Details:

It can be very challenging to remain connected to ourselves and others when we’re triggered.

In this gathering we will explore the experience of being triggered, pre-trigger practices, practices during trigger, and post-trigger practices.

*This event if free. There is a donation box for “green gratitude” if you so are inspired, by there is no absolutely obligation to donate.

AVL NVC Consciousness Gathering – January 19th

Our next Asheville NVC Consciousness Gathering will be held on Tuesday, January 19th from 7pm-9pm. This event will be hosted at 29 Parkwood Ave, Asheville 28804.

In this meeting we split up into small groups to practice radical giraffe (rad honesty/ NVC honesty/rad NVC), holding space for honesty (empathy/compassionate presence), and active listening (verbal empathy/paraphrasing & empathy guesses).

I would like for each small group to have at least one person who is comfortable in their NVC. We will break into groups accordingly the day of (I’m not inspired to try to pre-decide who will be in which group).

Gathering schedule:
7 – 7:30pm: We will be reviewing NVC basics. This will be a good time to ask clarifying questions about the different components of NVC. Please try to arrive early if you know you will be inspired to be a part of this NVC review. Feel free to review the outlines from previous gatherings and bring your questions for discussion! For those already comfortable with their NVC, this will be an opportunity to share what NVC means to you and respond to questions from others in the group less familiar with NVC.

7:30pm-8:30pm: We will do a self-check-in (breathing meditation, mindfulness practice, self-awareness of what is alive in us) and go around the room to briefly share our check-in with the group. We will then break into small groups to practice.

8:30pm-9pm: We will come back together as a group and share our feedback, what contributed to our well-being during the gathering, what did not. For those of you used to leaving at 8:30, there will be a brief window to exit at this time.

We will officially conclude at 9pm where there will be a formal window for those who to depart. I say “formal window…to depart” because many people choose to stay later than our ending time to continue discussing. I wish to make it comfortable for those who have other things to do/other inspirations to leave at the agreed upon end time.

If you have your Feelings and Needs Inventories, please bring them. Even if you don’t think you’ll look at them, someone else may enjoy borrowing them.

*This event is free. There is a donation box if you’d like to share your green gratitude, and donations are greatly appreciated, however there is no obligation to do so.

 

Asheville NVC Consciousness practice group

Over the Summer I began hosting a bi-weekly NVC practice group here in Asheville, NC. The group is organized through Facebook and can be found here.

Our next gathering will be Tuesday, January 5th from 7pm – 8:30pm. It will be held at 29 Parkwood Ave, Asheville, NC 28804. Event details below.


 

There are 3 things that will excel your NVC practice.

1) Interior Clarity (Feelings and Needs awareness and vocabulary)

2) NVC Support

3) Practice, Practice, Practice

The intention for this next gathering will be to work on all 3.

To start, Geri Hubbe will address the topic of “inner listening, clarity, and insight, how to notice the sensations in the body and notice the emotions.” Geri will lead us in guided meditation of Body Scanning. Next I will show some simple hand positions when using NVC to help make the different parts more tangible – thinking, feeling, needing, and requesting.

As we take notice of our bodily state, we will then transition into practicing NVC, sharing what’s alive in us, what’s been troubling us, what we’d like to celebrate.

Something we will be practicing from now on in gatherings is to continue to raise awareness of and acknowledge our discomfort. I’d like to explore with the group identifying hand signals that would effectively indicate when someone is feeling uncomfortable and if they would like that discomfort to be addressed with the group or if they would like to “pass.”

For the NVC practice after the inner listening part, the format I envision is for me to be in the main room working with one person in front of the group with whatever is alive for them. Those interested in observing will see the NVC process in action, which I imagine will spur questions and other things that come alive for people. This will be a fluid process and we will shift between what comes alive for different people – it won’t be only one person sharing what is alive for them in front of the group with me, we’ll shift and flow as things unfolds.

At the same time as this is taking place in the main room, those who are interested in working through whatever is alive in them in a more private and one-on-one setting will pair up in the side room for NVC empathy practice.

*This event is free. There is a donation box if you are inspired to financially contribute to my work and well-being, and donations are greatly appreciated, but there is absolutely no obligation to do so.