Needs, strategies, & meaning

Needs are distinct from strategies. This is what makes them universal to the human condition. If you’re speaking about a particular person, place, thing, or activity, then you are referring to a strategy and not a need. At the same time, a significant component of the human condition is to relate to the world around us, to specific persons, places, things, and activities. We derive vast meaning from this relating.

To think of someone you deeply love and and to believe that NVC is calling this person “simply a strategy” would not be congruous with NVC, which is a language of life. We can simultaneously hold how meaningful a particular person is to us while recognizing that this person is not the underlying need itself. They do not have to conflict.