While our human needs are universal, the intensity of those needs varies dramatically from one person to the next.
The need for order is the first example that comes to mind. Most everyone I’ve ever known has been in some form of conflict or discontent with the people they share space with because of this varying need for order. People with a high need for order are called “nit-picky,” “obsessive,” or “controlling,” while people with a low need for order are called “lazy,” “messy,” or “disorganized.”
Behind these judgments are simply a varying intensity of a universal need. Acknowledging this is the first step towards a healthy conversation about mutually beneficial strategies and shared living spaces.